I Went Back to My Least Favorite Country (Brunei)


### I Went Back to My Least Favorite Country: A Surprising Revisit to Brunei

When I first visited Brunei years ago, my experience left much to be desired. Nestled on the island of Borneo, surrounded by Malaysia and the South China Sea, Brunei is a small country that often slips under the tourism radar. My initial visit was marked by a series of cultural shocks, restrictions that felt stifling, and a stark contrast to the bustling, vibrant nations I was used to exploring. However, upon revisiting under different circumstances, I discovered facets of Brunei that challenged my earlier perceptions.

#### **Initial Hesitations**

Brunei is known for its wealth derived from oil and natural gas reserves. My first trip coincided with limited knowledge about the local customs and lifestyle which are deeply influenced by Islamic laws. As a traveler used to more secular environments, adjusting was challenging. The alcohol prohibition and less visible nightlife seemed initially unappealing; public spaces were quieter, and interactions seemed more reserved.

#### **The Decision to Return**

The decision to revisit came as a surprise even to myself. It was prompted by an invitation from friends residing in Bandar Seri Begawan who promised me “a new lens” to view their homeland. Admittedly skeptical but driven by curiosity and evolving interests in revisiting past experiences with new perspectives, I packed my bags for round two in Brunei.

#### **New Discoveries**

This time around, equipped with a deeper understanding and respect for local norms, I immersed myself into what Brunei uniquely offers:
– **Rich Biodiversity**: Venturing into Ulu Temburong National Park was nothing short of magnificent. The pristine rainforest ecosystem is one of the best preserved in Borneo. From canopy walks high above the trees to spotting rare species like the Bornean horned frog or rhinoceros hornbill, these experiences highlighted an unparalleled connection with nature.

– **Royal Regalia Museum**: Unlike my past rushed visit, this time I delved deeper into Brunei’s royal heritage at this museum which houses gifts received by Sultan Hassanal Bolkiah from dignitaries worldwide amongst other regalia. Understanding the context of these artifacts opened up insights into the political dynamics and deep-rooted history of royal diplomacy.

– **Water Village Lifestyle**: Kampong Ayer or ‘water village’ had been merely a quick photo opportunity during my earlier visit. On returning, taking time to engage with locals provided profound insights into their sustainable lifestyle on stilts above water – an aspect of cultural intimacy that had eluded me before.

– **Local Cuisine Re-experimentation**: Culinary experiences can redefine any trip. This time, dishes like Ambuyat (sago starch) became a novel exploration rather than a quick taste test; learning how it’s made and eaten traditionally brought unexpected joy.

#### **Changed Perceptions**

What changed most significantly during my revisit wasn’t so much Brunei but rather my approach towards it as a destination – an understanding that every place holds depth beyond superficial inconveniences or differences when observed closely.

I embraced slower travel – which isn’t necessarily about spending more time but being more present in moments without rushing through them; truly engaging rather than merely visiting.

#### **Final Thoughts**

My journey back to what was once my least favorite country turned into an enriching expedition leaving me with cherished memories and friendships. It underscored how places deserve second chances just as people do; sometimes all it takes is returning with an open heart and mind ready for new stories.

In conclusion, while not every journey might start perfectly according to our expectations or preferences at first encounter, revisiting them after expanding our horizons could lead us toward surprising discoveries about both the world and ourselves.